Victim of sexual abuse. Gay. Drag Queen. Transsexual prostitute.
Those are the labels once used to define Kevin Whitt.
Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, the new creation has come:
The old has gone and the new is here! (2 Corinthians 5:17)
Saint. Forgiven. Redeemed. Child of God. Witness. Inspiration. Encourager. Those are the words he is known by now.
I recently had the privilege of hearing Kevin’s testimony in person at the Upper Room Church. His testimony filled me with tears of joy and excitement as I heard about the amazing transformation God had done through Kevin. Fortunately, for me, and for many who will read this, Kevin has allowed me to ask him some very difficult questions. Questions that Christians need to hear the answers to. Questions that only someone who has lived a homosexual lifestyle can answer. I am so happy to have had the opportunity to share more of Kevin with you.
Kevin, thank you for being raw, and transparent. Thank you for answering questions that are so difficult to answer. Thank you for praying and surrendering this interview to the Lord before you responded. Thank you for openly sharing your heart so the body of believers can collectively love the LGBT community in a way that brings honor and glory to the Lord.
Brandy Coty: It’s no secret the church struggles with how to connect with those who identify as homosexual. In your testimony, you share that all you had been taught by the church was “…gay people are going to hell and their punishment from God was to get AIDS and die.” This radical approach to homosexuality continues to deter those who identify with a homosexual lifestyle away from the church, what advice do you have for Christians to help them be more loving and understanding of those living an alternate lifestyle?
Kevin Whitt: It has to come from love. Most gay people are very sensitive people. If they feel judged by you in the least bit, they will put up their defense mechanism and you will be shut out. Do not condemn them. Don’t immediately approach them and say “The Bible says homosexuality is a sin.” Guess what, they know. They have heard this their entire life and really don’t care. Don’t use scare tactics and tell them they are doomed to hell, once again, they have heard this before and don’t care. These are the things they have always heard from Christians and it pushes them away. Instead, share God’s love with them and tell them how He has changed your life. Most Christians focus on heaven more than anything else. I prefer to share with people the amazing ways that God changes our lives here on earth. The life of freedom is so amazing, share with them how God can transform and renew our minds. Heaven should not be the focus, if someone is Christian just so they will go to heaven when they die then they came to Christ from a place of fear and fear is a sin. I look at heaven as the icing on the cake, the ultimate gift from God. The fruit of the spirit is Love. Just love them. God will do the rest.
Brandy: We talked about the churches approach to teaching on homosexuality by pointing out that it is sin. In your article for Living Hope, you transparently share the following; “I was always taught that homosexuality was a sin… but since I was convinced that I was born gay, I assumed that I must have been created to go to hell. I admit that for most of my life, I asked myself, “If I died today, would I go to hell?” Many reading this can identify with you when you say, “I was born gay.” To those who feel they were born gay, what can you say now as a believer about your then view of being created to go to hell?
Kevin: The answer to this question is very complex. I will say this, we were all born in sin. No one is born gay. I think it is something that manifests within them. It is the effect of many different things that could have happened to them during their childhood. This can happen at a very young age which makes you believe you were born gay but that is a lie from the enemy. All sins separate us from God. Homosexuality, adultery, gluttony, idolatry, the list goes on. As Christians, we should not judge others based on their sins. We all have to choose to live resisting our “natural” inclination to sin and choose God. I do not believe in living a sin conscious life, but living a life with my eyes set on the triune God that I worship. What we fill our minds with is what we become, so if you focus on sin, you will commit more sin. If you focus on the Lord you will sin less. Jesus has the power to change the desires of our heart all we have to do is say YES to Jesus.
Brandy: You talk about your gay friends’ reaction to you accepting Christ and say, “When I would speak to my gay friends about God, they thought I was insane. The first thing they said was “You’re gay, you can’t believe in God.” My first reaction to this is anyone can believe God exists but living a life of obedience and surrender to God is a separate thing. Can you help clarify the difference for those who believe in God and are also living a homosexual lifestyle?
Kevin: Well, this is something I always struggled with. After much thought and prayer I feel anyone can “believe” in God. However, there is a big difference in being a “believer” and a “follower”. Christianity calls most of us to believe the Bible is the infallible and inerrant word of God. If we believe what the Bible says then we should not live in sin. The Bible says we are to be a representation of Jesus and the fruit we bear will show where our heart is. I feel that if someone is homosexual and in a committed relationship, but they also know what the Bible says about homosexuality then the Holy Spirit will convict them and they will not be able to live a life of sin for very long. The conviction of the Holy Spirit would cause them to leave that life.
Brandy: I love your quote “Being macho does not make a man a man.” Ricky Chelette talks a lot about the “sensitive boy,” in his teachings. For the men reading this who relate more to their feminine qualities and feel less masculine in comparison to their peers, do you have any words of wisdom or encouragement for them?
Kevin: My feminity haunted me most of my life and I tried everything to be a masculine man. I dressed like a cowboy, a biker, and everything else you can think of but nothing worked. I decided to use my feminity to my advantage and began dressing in drag and eventually became a transsexual prostitute. After I was saved, I realized God created me a MAN, in His image. God did not create me feminine. The world has decided that there is a very narrow definition of what masculinity is. Those of us who are sensitive are sometimes thought to be feminine and sometimes we adopt things that are generally considered more feminine that masculine. But real masculinity is being able to speak truth, initiate, and enter into the chaos of life to give it direction. I do that, and can do that as a sensitive man, a macho man, or something in between. There is not just one way to be a man. Yes, living in the homosexual lifestyle for over 20 years probably added to my feminity but that’s ok. I am a sensitive man and that’s exactly what God wants me to be. The enemy loves to attack us by twisting things just a little to deceive us. If one day he wants me to be a masculine man then he will make that happen. It no longer bothers me. I am sure there are people that will still judge me based on my outer appearance and that’s fine, because they don’t know my heart. Like Sy Rogers says “It’s just the residue from my past”.
To read Kevin’s full testimony click here – A Drag Queen’s True Transformation
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