Being a single Christian in today’s world continues to be increasingly difficult.
It hurts my heart every time I hear one of my single friends say, “I’m enjoying being single right now.” If we’re not careful, those words can be decrypted to mean “I’m enjoying my life of selfishness.” Part of the reason many people are choosing a life of singleness is because some singles ministries make being single fun and exciting. Commitment and intentionality are inadvertently being discouraged by increased opportunities to go on group dates and see members of the opposite sex without pursuit.
Another reason people are choosing a life of singleness is because of the difficulty, confusion and frustration that comes with dating.
When I had dinner with a married girlfriend in her late 30s, she asked about my current, non-existent dating life. I filled her in on some recent, very confusing behavior from a guy friend that was leaving me wondering if he was interested. As I shared, she responded by saying, “Hearing you share about the challenges you are having in your singleness makes me so glad I am married.”
In that moment I was also feeling very glad that she was married and didn’t share the same continued frustration I often feel. This is an article I wrote for Single Matters Magazine, to view the entire article, follow this link Being Intentional and Dating With Purpose